How we treat ourselves and interact with our children greatly impacts our relationship. Imagine if we treated our best friend like we are an authoritarian, controlling boss acting over their head, without paying conscious attention to their feelings and needs.
They would definitely not feel understood, seen, safe, or valued, right? The same is true of our children.
The way we think about our child, acknowledge their unique being and mindfully respond to their needs, determines their development: their confidence, trust, self-esteem, feelings of worthiness and safety. The first years determine their development for the rest of their life.